Stress is a huge problem. It’s something that affects our mental and physical healths on a daily basis. It also makes us more susceptible to illness. Dealing with stress on a daily basis is necessary.
I know saying “deal with your stress” doesn’t help you. In fact, it likely makes you more stressed. You need practical tips to help.
I try to live a relatively stress-free life. My children are definitely going to be the death of me at times, but for the most part, I try to avoid the stressful situations. I’ve gained skills over the years that help me do this. These are my five top tips for dealing with stress on a daily basis.
Figure out what’s causing the stress
The first thing I do when I’m stressed is figure out what it is that’s causing it. There are many stressful situations that can arise in a day. The car may have broken down, my husband may not have left work on time so I’m left with the kids for longer, or the dogs may be ill. I may have had a letter through the post that has caused some financial problems (or like the car insurance where I just hate ringing around for the best rate) or there may be things in the news that send my stress levels high.
I need to know what it is that’s causing my stress levels to rise. You do too.
This is important so you can pinpoint the problem and act on it. There are times that you have control over what to do next.
For example, the dogs are sick. I assess what it is that’s wrong. Was it a one-off, possibly something they’ve eaten? If yes, then I just keep an eye on them for the rest of the day. If there’s a bigger problem, I’ll ring the vets and get them booked in.
When the car insurance paperwork came through, I checked it out. Then I saw the rate was up. I called to find out why and then went looking for cheaper rates. Once I have them, I put them to one side to deal with later, usually that night or the following day. Now I can forget about it for the time being and move on with the next problem or focus on work again.
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Forget about it if you can’t do anything about it
There are times you won’t be able to do anything. This is often the case when a company has made a decision or you’re waiting on test results. It’s hard, but I’ve found ways of dealing with stress from these situations.
I just forget about them.
I know, that’s not easy! It’s taken me a long time to manage it.
When I get to a situation I have no control over, I take a deep breath and push it out of my mind. There’s just no point in worrying over something that you have no control over. Pray to your god if you have one or focus on getting on with the day. Me? I put my worries out into the universe and push it to the back of my mind. I’ll deal with it properly when I have something I can work with.
It’s been something that I’ve had to remember during the current pandemic. There are all these news reports, numbers rising, closures happening. It’s easy for it all to get on top of you. The bits that I could control, such as what we do as a family, wearing a mask, staying away from large groups, I focused on. I also put together a schedule for the kids so that I could still get on with work while they are off school.
When it came to situations I couldn’t control, like the news reports, I made a decision to push it all out of my mind. I’d start the day hearing the latest news and then check it again at around 5 p.m. after all the big press conferences around us. Then I could just focus on work.
Get physical contact when you can
I know you’re going to laugh at me right here. After all, are we allowed grandchildren to hug their grandparents yet? But physical contact is one of the best ways of dealing with stress for me.
This doesn’t even have to be with people. My dogs are the best source of physical contact right now. When I’m on the couch, I love to snuggle up with them. One of them will literally sit on my lap despite him weighing 66lbs now. He loves his snuggles and unless I’m eating, I’m more than happy to oblige.
My kids will also come up now and then with the offer of a hug. It’s clear they’re the ones who need it, but it’s nice to get that physical connection.
As humans, we are social animals. I’m an introvert—at least, that’s how people describe me—but I still need some social interaction. I don’t think I’m an introvert and more of an empath. I like hanging out with people if they have the right vibe for me. And that means the quick bursts of physical contact with my kids and dogs.
Tarot cards are my way of dealing with stress
I’ve mentioned in the past that tarot cards help me a lot. They have become my way of dealing with stress on a daily basis. They help me focus and get back on with things.
Trying to find a system that works for you is important. For some, it is tarot cards. For others, it’s meditation. I also find yoga helpful, but don’t do it as much as I can. Other people will work out in the gym.
Whatever it is, find your one thing that helps on a daily basis—something that you can do on a daily basis.
Get outside for some fresh air
Finally, you need to get outside. Even though people are telling you to stay in right now, there’s nothing stopping you from opening your door and sitting on your porch or patio. If you don’t have them, find something close to home or just stand outside of your door for some fresh air.
Yes, there are going to be times that this isn’t possible. We had a week of heat warnings and I take them seriously with my kids (history of suffering from the heat). So, for that whole week, we barely went out. The air con and fans were on and we have a lot of water. But other days of the week, we get outside for at least 60 minutes per day.
That time is often in short bursts. I’ll get the dogs out for multiple short walks throughout the day in this heat (they’re huskies) to add up to the 60 minutes they need. On the heat warning days, I get the dogs out in the morning and evening for longer periods to add up to the 60 minutes. If not a walk, they are allowed to run around the back for a bit, as long as there are no other dogs and children around.
You need to deal with your stress levels. Make it your thing to find ways of dealing with stress on a daily basis. You won’t regret it.