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Doesn’t it seem like there are more dating rules than ever before? I recently learned of the 777 dating rule, and here’s what it is.
I’ll be upfront here and say that while I’m on dating sites and talking to people, I’m not looking for anything serious. That doesn’t stop me from looking into all the dating rules out there now. And there seem to be way more dating rules than there used to be.
The 777 dating rule is one that came up recently. I kind of rolled my eyes when I heard there was yet another dating rule, but I was intrigued at what it was. If I decide to date seriously, then this is something I need to know. Plus, others may be interested in it as they get into serious relationships.
What is the 777 dating rule?
You may have heard of the 4 Cs of dating, and you’ve likely heard of the 3-date rule. Well, the 777 rule is broken down into 7 days, 7 weeks, and 7 months.
The first one: Every 7 days, you should go on a date with this person you believe is a serious partner. This is also something that you should do when you get into a committed relationship and even when you marry. It could be a coffee date or a lunch date; whatever works for your schedule.
The second one: Every 7 weeks, you should go away on an overnight date. This is going to be much harder to do when you have children. Trying to get just one night to go on a date night can seem difficult. I get why this one doesn’t happen. And I know the pandemic caused even more problems. This overnight date doesn’t need to be a big vacation somewhere. Book a hotel and stay the night away from everyone else—just focus on the two of you.
The third one: Every 7 months, you should go away on a week-long vacation. This is one that I laughed at, and I’ll get to that in the next part.
Is this dating rule even realistic?
The first part of the 777 dating rule makes sense. I can see making a date once a week work. After all, coffee or lunch is time that the two of you can take out together. You can find a way to make your work schedules work.
The overnight date is a little harder, especially if you have children. Even if I wanted to spend more time than I had to with my ex (and at one point, I did), we wouldn’t have been able to make an overnight date work every seven weeks. We didn’t have the money for it, and we didn’t have childcare options. It really was that simple.
It’s the last one that I laugh at. A week-long vacation every seven months? If you’d said once a year, fine. I can see how that just about works. But every seven months? That means one year there will be two vacations in a year, and not everyone has that sort of time to take off work. And not everyone has the money for that. If marriages can’t work without a vacation every seven months, I’m not sure how my grandparents and parents have made their marriages work.
Do you need to follow these dating rules?
Don’t feel bad if you can’t make the 777 dating rule work for your relationship. These dating rules aren’t always made with realistic expectations in mind. I find a lot of the “rules” are made by people who want their partners to step up or because that’s what they would like to do—and they probably have money for it.
There is one part of this new dating rule that will work, though. It’s the date every seven weeks. I do believe in having “date night” in your relationship, and it doesn’t need to be a date night out on the town. It’s just about getting quality time together. If you can do that without children, great, but if you have to do a date night at home while the children sleep, do it. Connecting with each other is important, no matter how long or short you’ve been together.
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What do you think of these dating rules? What are you struggling with in your relationships? Share your thoughts in the comments below.